I was asked an interesting question recently. Have I already begun to plan my wedding?
Now that immediately assumes that I’ll get married some day. At one point, I was pretty sure that I didn’t want to get married. Just being together with someone without involving the authorities, like Dharma’s parents in Dharma & Greg. Staying together because they chose to do so instead of because a piece of paper legally bound them together.
I don’t feel that way anymore. I would like to get married someday. But not in the next few years. I still need to experience what it’s like to be totally independent, living on my own, earning my own money, paying bills.. Okay, so I’ve already worked and earned money, but I haven’t moved out. Not quite, even though it sometimes feels like I have. That’s another thing that I like about uni, it brings me another step closer to freedom by letting me live on my own.
Back to the subject of weddings though. The answer is yes, I have begun to plan mine. Nothing concrete, but I’ve begun browsing magazines just to see what’s out there. The variety of flower arrangements, dresses, cakes, decorations, trinkets, invitations.. it’s pretty overwhelming. I don’t know how they do it, the ones that actually manage to plan their own wedding. Then again, the groom has to be consulted a bit so it does narrow down some things. For instance the season when the wedding’s supposed to take place. If one hates the cold then why have it during the winter? Then there’s the honeymoon destination… if both have their hearts set on going to a tropical island, then going during monsoon season isn’t that bright of an idea. 😄
Then there’s the question of how big will it be, where it’ll be held, use traditional vows or come up with new ones, the budget…
Sure it’s fun to think about all of that, but it’s more important to plan the actual marriage than just the wedding. The wedding’s only one day, the marriage (hopefully) will last a life time. That’s what I’m looking forward to, more than the wedding day. Which is why I’m not rushing to get married, I need to know for sure that the man I marry is someone I can and want to spend the rest of my life with. And I don’t think I know that yet. It’s way too soon.
wedding, marriage, love